Saturday, July 22, 2017

Snicker Snicker: ha ha heheh hypnosis. FUNNY?

Really?  What planet are we on in the "Milky Way"?  ......MARS?   (Where does that expression even come from really?)  Tangent:  The reference to someone being a Neanderthal is actually a compliment as they were super smart.   People should be a little "MORE-on" ........seriously.  Get with the programmed. Oh ....you already are.

How boring is the program.  I think I'll go get a snickers.  I don't care.  Yup. Ya'll are so boring and scatterbrained, I much rather enjoy a snickers than listen to you NUTS.


So what exactly do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your psyche?

snicker snicker sucker sucker snicker funny funny 

What do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your relationship with chocolate?

What do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your relationship with you? your body? your mind? your emotional heart?

What do you think this hypnotic connection increases or decreases in terms of behavior and/or associated behavior?  At least they're obvious about it and not sublingual .....I mean not subliminal.  But now that I "neanderthal" it.......to most of you knuckleheads, it probably is subliminal hahahahahah....snickers.

Unlike the Untied States, Britain and Australia do not allow subliminal advertising.

What cray cray in the snickers advertising campaign do you think would design such packaging thinking that it would promote sales?  Hmmmm. Maybe it does or it will?

Or maybe it will increase the purchase of a gift to a love giving a sweet message - "You rowdy B_ _ _ _."  "Here you go peanut."



They have these laughs in Mexico with similar associations.
Que intolerable! Estas muy grunon y dramatica. Ay caramba.  Dios mio.  Vas a comer una chocolate con estrella dinero.

Haha.....look what I just came across......I'm such a neanderthal.  I've got the sagittal crest ;)
You knucklehead Homo sapiens.  You little piggies run all the way home and enjoy your snickers.  Y voy a comer con gusto tambien.  Teach your children well.  wah wah wah wah wah? what? Enjoy.

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Know where to take a bite out of line.....I mean life.  Then put on your sneakers and go for a run on the treadmill so you can work your HAMSTER rings.  Turn those wheels .......right?

snickers snickers snickers snickers.

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Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Parental co-proxy - Gaslighting Munchausen Syndrome: Get with the program

DSM 6?

You may have heard of the psychological condition known as Munchausen SyndromeIt is a condition where an individual feigns sickness of mental or physical varieties in order to get the attention and sympathy of others.


Munchausen by Proxy is a condition where an individual, usually a caregiver makes up a story that the person being cared for has a psychological or physical health condition in order to get attention and/or sympathy from others.

The person usually being "cared" for is a child, an elder or an individual with a disability.  The commonalities among:  children, elders and individuals with disabilities is that they are often not believed, due to "valued position by society" and/or don't they don't have the language to express the truth of a situation.

Also, Munchausen by Proxy is not a "common go to" explanation or answer regarding what is occurring, as this explanation has to bypass the first observable layer of what is being presented.  One must peel away the layer of fog to see the true clarity.  Some aren't even aware that the fog is fog.

Munchausen by Co-parent Proxy (Munchausen by Co-proxy) is the Narcissistic Gaslighting of one parent's story of the other parent to a child.

OF THE HEALTH VARIETY 

"Your mommy is very very sick.  I'm so sorry.  Your daddy is very very sick."
"Your mommy is crazy.  Your daddy has mental health issues" 

OR OF THE RELIGIOUS VARIETY
"Your mommy lives in sin."      "Your daddy is not going to heaven.  He's cursed."


A child is very imprintable and impressionable and his/her views and ideas of the world and people in it are greatly influenced by parental talk, opinions and behaviors.

Munchousin co-proxy has a big influential power on a child's perception of victimized parent because in many ways the narcissist parent shuts the child's truth down.  The "narcissist co proxy parent"will reference the other parent in negative ways both subtly and overtly.  He will make parallel associations such that the child's perspective over the course of years is influenced.  For example, 

Mother asks: "What color shirts are the good football players wearing?"  
Son responds:  "Black."

Mother asks:  "What color shirts is the bad football team wearing?"
Son responds:  "White."

Mother asks:  "What color shirt is daddy wearing?"
Son responds:  Silence.  

On some level, the child is aware of the negative association inference, but with many of these types of suggestions adding up over the course of years, it affects the child.  It may affect the child's view of the parent and in the long run perhaps the view of the other parent.  

Undoubtedly, there is a pressure from the narcissist parent for the child to agree with her and/or make fun of the other parent, not respect him, speak to him in the same way that the mother references him:
"moron." This reference may come out overtly or covertly.  "Dad you can't every do anything right can you?"

There is not much literature on the effects of vicarious gaslighting on children, pathologized co-parent and/or the relational dynamic.  

When families stay united, the results aren't usually as devastating on a child, parent or relationship between the two as in comparison to when there is a split family.  This variance is due to the amount of time a narcissist parent has in isolation with the child in order to adversely influence and shape the child's opinion of other parent.

When this type of scenario enters a court setting, a parent who is the victim of narcissistic gaslighting with Munchausen by-Proxy is often seen as sick because the court rooms don't know how to see through the fog.  The co-parent enters a similar muted role as the child, an elder or a mentally disabled in terms of his voice being heard.

 Once the narcissist parent has ejected co-parent out of driver's seat and/or car, her control in the driver's seat is even more influential and powerful.  It is very hard for the ejected parent to re-enter the picture as the picture is quite different from the one that has been painted.  Not only does the victimized parent have to not draw false defense lines within the Munchousen co-proxy story, he has to remain in his own story of truth. He has to metaphorically get into the driver seat of another car.

As split families are more common now than ever before, this concept of Munchousin co-proxy is important to keep in mind as it absolutely does not have the child's best interest or co-parent's best interest at heart.

Some people take the view that a narcissist acts out of malicious intent.  

Perhaps there is an explanation of intent due to oblivion resulting from a genetic variable located on Chromosome 3 p 25 resulting in low oxytocin and one's ability to "see and understand life through eyes of other" empathy which is different from mirrored reflect.

**There are no pictures complex enough to be associated with this concept at this point in time.**

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Tuesday, May 16, 2017

PTSD and the new "F." 8 new ways to understand trauma transcendence

The split between:

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
and
Flying

From my educational experience and training thus far, I have not yet read other professionals' mentionings of any discrepancies between these two experiences: PTSD and FLYING.

I refer to the 2nd experience as "flying" but clearly, that's not the term I search for in order to see if anyone else has written about this concept. Instead,  I have looked for mention of the concept of flying and I have not come across any remotely related literature.

Flying will be introduced and discussed  with respect to PTSD Transcendence in a brief moment.

A quick snapshot of the current accepted rationales as to why certain individuals get PTSD while others exposed to the same environmental milieu do not.

1. Oxytocin levels
The higher the innate level of oxytocin, the higher the probability of increased emotional response and internal freeze encapsulation resulting in PTSD. Also the higher probability of "fight or flight."

(The 6Fs: 1. Flight, 2. Freeze, 3. F***, 4. Fight, 5. Food, 6.  Flying (different from flight)).

Higher oxyocin levels are 'base'd on Chromosome 3p25 marker rs53576 containing GG and/or AG alleles (in comparison to AA alleles).

2. Relational support
Higher oxytocin level people (approximately 37% of global population) not only experience increased chance of PTSD onset, but they benefit more from assuaging of Trauma/traumas through love, touch, empathy and interactive support from family members, friends or loved ones. If higher oxytocin level people do not receive love and support, healing hugs etc., their likelihood of PTSD onset is increased.

3. Lock and Key
If one has a previous existing life theme in which the current stressful event fits into like a lock in key,  and the combination of current event and past theme is impactful enough to turn the latch, one's psychological  door of trauma is opened resulting in a situationally compounded emotional reaction - PTSD.

Following are aome offered new perspectives regarding why some people may get  PTSD while others do not. 

4. Sympathetic nervous system carrying  capacity levels to trauma.

Through the lens of biology, the difference between those who are able to fly through PTSD onset and those who get trapped in it's net may be related to one's y-axis of intensity level carrying capacity.  For some people, the  sympathetic nervous system activation and associated levels of  released (x) cortisol may be activated at y=4. For others y may =9.. Cortisol traps the trauma experience as a memory with intensity and cause ortisol imprints that can get trigger by similar future themes.

 One's threshold for acceptable internal stress (y) beyond homeostatic resting point may also play a factor in the onset of PTSD as the higher the carrying capacity of the individual's nervous system, the more tolerable the trauma level.

I would imagine this concept of nervous system carrying capacity is not fixed, rather it has a cumulative effect similar to a stretched rubber band. The more the parameters of trauma tolerance with respect to any given  theme are slowly stretched over time, the less snap back PTSD potential.

I would imagine that people have varying overall carrying capacity thresholds of PTSD tolerance (x,y) as well as varying levels of theme tolerance  with respect to nervous system activation. The ladder is more situational than biological in terms of individual's  exposure.

5. Trauma Theme Tolerance
From a conditioned social lens, flying  ability through a trauma experience may have to do with internalized conditioned beliefs and associated emotions from past experiences that counteract the PTSD exposure experience.

For example, if one were at a summer camp at the beach and a life guard saved a child from not drowning in the waves, this experience would feed a flying bank niche associated with water/death/fear.

If that same person as an adult were on a sinking cruise ship, and people around him were terrified of drowning, his life preserver encapsulated memory of the child, being saved by the life guard may provide a PTSD barrier.

This childhood scenario however would probably not serve as emotional protection of that same person if he were were trapped in a burning building as an adult due to  the fact that the  two scemarios most likely don't share theme relations. 

Ultimately, PTSD comes down to fear of death and/or fear of people and their torture from a trapped and pained perspective (either of psyche or of body).

PTSD is the worst for those individuals trapped in a confined space while being or feeling threatened for one's life by another.

6.Flexible Trauma  Contours
When these people are forced to brush up against their worst fear(s)...... And they cannot cognitively rework and redefine the trauma situation internally and/or fully accept and embrace the other side, the trauma exposure is like hitting a bag of ice against a steel wall.

To redefine perspective, shape of reality  and fly in that same metaphor, one's ice in bag would melt in the bag such that when it hits the wall, it shares contours with the wall and flexes rather than fractures.

Perhaps some flyers transcending PTSD  have experienced a deep spiritual connection in which there is a knowing of life and 'death' beyond and expanded from the conventional conditioning associated fears and unknowns.

Perhaps there is a letting go of the ego self and a joining with the kami of the universe. ...an acceptance of being..... whether in Being or out of Being. Perhaps there is a cognitive storyline or awareness that fits not only as an imagined (or real) separate realm, but a storyline that can also be tied into the logic of understanding in this realm.

7. Oxytocin reverse

Even though the oxytocin effects correlating to trauma were referenced above,  perhaps there is also a reverse possibility.

Even though high oxytocin level people experience higher PTSD potential, this facet of the population also has a more complex inner world with schematic imagery and an ability to formulate alternative narratives.

One's ability to cognitively break free of entrapped storylines such as demonstrated in the movie "Life is Beautiful" can exponentially increase his/hey ability to transcend trauma.

If the trapped trauma is transcended and taught intergenerationally, the whole life experience would change.

8. Sleep state Integration

Another possibility regarding why some people develop PTSD while others do not may have to do with how some people process, chunk and associate trauma experiences  in various phases of sleep.

9. Exercise and meditation and NSI
may play roles in abating  PTSD. Also a breath work process I have named Neuro Somatic Integration.

NSI Neuro Somatic Integration

Perhaps the reasons why flyers become flyers and why others get PTSD isn't even this complex. Thoughts?

I have had clients who have been gang raped with no PTSD onset. I have had clients who have been held to gun point with no PTSD onset. I have had military jet pilots with missiles blowing past them in florescent colors with no resulting trauma.

Yet......it is not uncommon for surrounding people who know the individual had been exposed to such a traumatic event to think that the person's anger or sadness or fear in any given scenario is connected  that person's unprocessed trauma.

Of course it is important to keep in mind that PTSD can manifest at any time in one's life regardless of how long ago the initial exposure was to Trauma. It is also important to note that things and/or situations can cause PTSD that one would not typically classify as a traumatizing event. It is quite dependent upon ones internal world, life history and emotional impacts. 

Also, the same things don't scare people. One's fear might be elicited by a natural disaster. Another's fear might be elicited by a psychological scenario. One's fear might be elicited by an imagined concept.

There is no one size fits all PTSD exposure theory, yet often people project their own fears onto others and assume that those individuals will have the same fears as self.

It seems that often, these flyer types of personalities' biggest risk for PTSD onset is related to therapists', friends' and families' insistence that they have PTSD rather than listening to their truth. I'm being slighly sarcastic.

A quick tangent from the last paragraph . . . . the types of personalities drawn to heroin and opiates (even before ever discovering drugs) often shut down and cease attempts at genuine connection and expression of self as they frequently feel  categorized and framed into others' perspective and sense making.

Rather than these personalities realizing it is a limitation of the listener to hear the words and genuine expression .of him / herself... They often think they are not good with expression and communication and therefore stop......but their thought is simply the farthest thing from the truth.

We operate in many ways within this world as if we are all one in the same on the inside. It's simply not the case.

Back to the concept of flying.  . . . Using the above 3 scenarios of: gang rape,  gun point and missile flight,  PTSD  transcendence, as the possible result of one's ability create a new storyline and  experience reality through this unique lens  would undoubtedly be viewed as dissociation by most professionals.

Rather than be curious if there is anything to learn from these "Life (are) Beautiful" scenarios, therapeutic professionals  are often  much more interested in forcing a round peg through a square hole. Why? Because if they get "the plug"  to fit, they have succeeded in their job and they can stroke their own egos for being good therapists. Good luck trying to get a therapist  to admit it. Unlike most other facets of life, you'll actually need the luck beyond the given touche cheeky expression. It's not just therapists who insist on angles of overlaid peception of other.

I invite so many more possibilities of thinking and imagination to explore this flying concept of PTSD transcendence. (Call or whatever you want).  ...."Wilson?" (The soccer ball)

Willing suspension of life disbelief within this realm rather than exclusively in hollywood.

I will offer two more potential explanations pertaining  to the nervous system that I think may be  possibiliTIES as to why some people don't get PTSD in an almost universally guaranteed PTSD evoking scenario.

10. Nervous System rerouting
I believe that just like a train can get re-routed by the shifting of TIES on railroad tracks, so too can the nervous system get re-routed. Just like the circulatory system can grow itself around coronary blockages and arteriosclerosis venules and arterioles, so too can the nevous system create new working pathways.

For example, one's nervous system vibration,  frequency and route of synaptic travel that in the past was associated with anxiety in the stomach may now register in the body as extreme fatigue, or as a leg tingle. This nervous system rerouting process.....grows around the nervous system trauma block and makes new tie-ins to cognitive sense makings and neuronal junctures that are operational ....thus eliminating the trauma responses.

One would be able to detect this somatic re-routing of the body as the conscious mind would recognize the same environmentally triggering scenarios (whether internal thinking or external situations) eliciting different internal cues and sensations.

There are so many other ways of viewing trauma reslience and life in general that can radiate off this nervous system rerouting concept if one is interested in exploring new pathways of understanding.

11. Parasympathetic nervous system cushion
Lastly, in terms of the antagonistic relationship of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, perhaps some bodies remain in the parasympathetic state when exposed to stress, thus resulting in PTSD avoidance....however another set of issues might get created.....those of the psychosomatic variety.....such as oversweating or nausea.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Pompeiid Trauma Triggers & Password Questions: Ongoing Compartmentalized Life Trauma







Why do passwords ask memory questions associated with such specific things in past life?  How is it right that when attempting to log into your bank account.....if you are in a new location, it is ok for these types of institutions to ask security questions to bring you back to memories throughout life in which actually .. . . ....you have no desire to travel?

Futhermore.....the more complex one's inner world is, the more difficult it is to recall the nuance of password entry.  For example:  First pet animal's name:

The inner dialogue might sound like,

"Hmmm....did I give them the cat?   the fish?  the turtle?  the  dog? They were all around the same time"
"Oh gosh. .. .did I capitalize the letter of the name?"
"Did I spell it in the foreign language version or the Americanized version?"

etc. etc. etc.

You've already been LOCKED OUT.

No big deal....this is how "the busy".....well.....keeps us busy.......on the side of doing the things we enjoy in life.  Wow....what if we had too much time to just be.......I wonder?  Would we see some of the incongruencies in life that we've been taught?  Would we have a clearer picture of truth?  Anyway...... aside from minor annoyances with password protections, for those who have trauma or PTSD....it can be another story.

Life trauma is different from (and in biological ways similar to) POWs and veteran related combat fighting.

When someone has experienced trauma related to their personal lives, their triggers can be anything related to their personal lives .....  the content of triggers may seem completely neutral to surrounding people.  Content may even seem positive to surrounding people. .....But is far from positive for the inner world of one experiencing life trauma.  If they are not overtly expressive about the effects of content and/or words and/or tone and/or facial expression on their inner world . .. . ..either by being vociferous, through behavior or pulling away, the surrounding person or people may never know the internal impacts on someone. 

  For example  . .. .if someone has personal life trauma, something as subtle as:

"You seem in a good mood today" can be triggering.

How could this statement possibly affect someone in a bad way right?

Well.....if we think about life in terms of a spectrum of + integers and - integers .....or the yin yang concept, there are oppositional forces associated with all concepts ....associated with everything.  

Dependent upon one's perception of external environment and/or the way in which content is filtered through inner environmental milleu, it is perceived as positive or negative, regardless of the associated external value and/or the conditioned norm.  There is no intrinsic value to things.

This concept of language is like natural selection.  If there has been a scorched earth fire and foliage has been burned except for the green leaves at the top of trees, the giraffes with long necks will survive simply because they can reach the tall leaf trees.  The long necks are not innately a positive or negative thing.  The long necks only become a positive thing if the lower leaves have been burned.  This concept is how genetic shift happens.  Actually, it often happens quite rapidly and the process is called punctuated equilibrium. (It can also happen over the course of time with selection slowly gravitating toward the positive variables of the species).

Another example is, what color owls do you think would survive in the arctic and not be plucked off as easily by a predator?  White. Therefore, the majority of owls in artic areas are snowy white.  There is a natural selection toward this color in terms of mating and passing on the white genes.  A white owl however would probably not be as camouflaged in a green and brown forest.  Therefore, the white snowy owl would be an easy target by the fox who is hungry. A white owl is not intrinsically a good or bad color owl ....it simply depends upon the environmental variables.

Ok....back to the example:  "You seem in a good mood today"

Well, for one who has not experienced trauma which they have had to compartmentalize in order to function, "You seem in a good mood today" is neutral and/or positive.

However, in terms of the integer and yin/yang concept.... the judgment from other with respect to your mood being "good".....also by default, invites the internal reverse.  Even if the person is in a good mood on any given day when the interactor makes the statement, if the receiver person has unresolved and unprocessed, un-integrated life trauma, the statement invites the awareness of the compartmentalized reverse. ...that in fact...... "No I'm overall not in a good mood overall."

This concept is particularly true if the life trauma situation is not only not resolved but ongoing.   For example, if someone has an open litigation scenario in which they might be facing years in jail........and they are waiting to hear the outcome of the scenario, that person may keep going in life, enjoy facets of life, connect in relationships, smell the flowers, surf the waves.......with an ability to compartmentalize the jail time scenario.  However, when the statement, "You seem in a good mood today" enters the picture, it can instantly burst the compartmentalization bubble and join the "trauma pocket" with the fabric of the rest of life.  The result is ....a psychological bleed.

In any case, this example is just one example of semantics with respect to trauma language land minds.  Keep the concept in mind for general purposes not only for those experiencing trauma....as we as humans have a tendency to fill space and time with the most ridiculous talk related things.  Also, we fill time with many assumptions in our language.  We talk about things outside of the now and without permission ....ask prurient questions and or questions related to topics that the person being asked really doesn't want to talk about.  So if you are the person asking the question be mindful of the content.  If you are a person receiving the question, keep in mind that ultimately you have the power to redirect the conversation, and or let the talker directly know that you have no desire to talk about X,Y, Z.

Trauma triggers of language affect one's mood.  After the bubble is popped or the compartmentalization is removed from the pocket, it takes some time to re-bubble and tuck the trauma away again.  

During this scenario, internally, cortisol is released.  The sympathetic nervous system is activated.  The throat can feel as if it is experiencing closure.  Muscles contract.  It is certainly not a part of a "good mood day" or "hour" ......the time in which it takes to separate trauma from living again depends upon the individual and his designed strategies.

This same trauma eliciting language concept can occur with respect to security questions.  Not only are security questions invasive of self to self......and not only are they difficult for people with complex inner worlds to remember the nuance variation.....but they are triggering for someone with trauma. They are can be emotionally evoking for someone who is sensitive and or who has an eidedic memory.

 I am currently working with a few clients who are going through a divorce processes. Do they have PTSD and/or trauma?  Maybe.  PTSD and trauma can affect anyone, even if the life adjustments affect many people (as divorce is the norm these days occurring at 50% rate).  What may seem like a normal event to one person may be internally trauma evoking to another person.  Part of this difference has to do with internal value one places on something coupled with how foundational the challenged belief system is to the individual's core psyche.  If the concept is beyond cognitive understanding of the core psyche, more alarm may go off as the concept registers as "PATHOGEN ALERT to mind" or "INVADER....ENEMY......WAR"

 The prurient security questions such as the ones given as examples in the bank security questions are so unnecessary, discriminating and  invasive to one experiencing ongoing compartmentalized life trauma.  

Honestly, I'm sure the individual being asked the passwords would much prefer his/her bank account to be hacked into.  After-all, isn't there a 100,000 coverage for Federally insured banks?  Seriously.....no joke.

The US passport agency even likes to celebrate a divorce date....as if it's a birthday.  So if you haven't memorized your divorce date like you have your anniversary date or a birthday........it will be POMPEIID in your mind after renewing your passport.  Woo hoo!  I guess this is an amazing date if it is the best thing that has ever happened to you.......and if that were the case....a whole other set of psychological questions could be asked of you.

Further Investigations:  Aside from trauma, perhaps the DSM-Vs "BORDERLINE" should also be re-investigated with these underpinning concepts in mind.  Maybe if there weren't so many 'LINES' the unsuspected responses wouldn't get elicited.

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

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