Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Attention! Army, Navy, Military....... "Be all that you can Be" Strike? Arm? Drop? Shake? PTSD.....Hummmm V

Do you know how many times more likely it is for a "Blue Personality Type" to struggle with PTSD post traumatic stress disorder as a result of trauma exposure in comparison to an "Orange Personality Type"?

I'll give you a minute to think about it.
 Remember......Blue personality types have higher oxytocin level RANGE based on chromosome 3p25.  The Single Nucleotide Polymorphism or SNP marker coding for the varying levels is rs53576

......1660 over.  1040?

There are actually 3 forms of the SNP marker, but 2 present very similarly, so they CAMOUFLAGE into one type .... Green type blends into the Blue.
Blue and Orange Personality Types have many differences between each other:  
  • ways of thinking
  • forms of communicating
  • levels of GGregarious or AAscetic 
  • styles of learning
  • children's reaction to PTSD
  • possibly reasons for addiction
  • empathy

Ay ay!  Captain.

AA = Orange
GG= Blue

AG = heterozygous formation Green but with camouflage ......green = blue.
Therefore, there are 3 genetic underpinnings that take 2 phenotypeic FORMATIONS (visible/observable characteristics and traits)

 Orange Personality Types have lower oxytocin levels.

The answer......... drum roll ........

I don't know?   My hypothesis is for sure:  Blue.

As most of one's genes don't change across his/her life time......  current research shows that children with Blue Personality Types are more susceptible to PTSD than are Orange Personality Types......

Does this carry over into adulthood?
Would there be a new form of discrimination?  A battle? A war if we discovered the answer?

Eh.....we better just keep in FATIGUE.

STRIKE that.


Friday, August 18, 2017

PTSD trauma? Are you more susceptible?

If you are what is referred to as a blue personality type, you have genetic markers (GG, AG) located on chromosomes 3, that increase your likelihood of getting PTSD from any given traumatic scenario. (GG and AG have subtle differences, but the G overrides the A, so the heterozygous form presents much like the homozygous form, in many ways so the two polymorphic variations have been clumped  together into one personality type known as blue.

If you are not interested in the science simply read the Bold

Approximately 37% of the global population has a blue personality type, so it is not the majority of human beings.

Blue personality types are primarily of European descent.

"Blue personality type" is a simple color coordinated term indicating that a person has higher levels of oxytocin than the remaining 67% of the population as a result of innate genetics.

Most Asians are orange personality types, innately having lower oxytocin levels due to a variance of the genetic marker located on chromosome 3 known as RS53576. The orange allelic version is AA.

Orange personality types are not as affected by scenarios that could potentially cause PTSD.  Whatever variable might cause PTSD in a blue personality type may have no effect on an orange personality type. It can be assumed that the increased frequency of PTSD response associated with blue personality type is correlated with the increased range of emotional feeling and associated somatic response in comparison to that of Orange personality type.

(Vasopressin plays a role in combination with oxytocin and PTSD as well, but it is not of primary importance nor is it relevant for this particular blog post. I only mention it in the event that someone has interest in further reading. There is some more recent research referencing vasopressin and Prairie voles and oxytocin).

Research demonstrates that blue personality types (those individuals having higher levels of oxytocin) are more affected by traumatic events and more frequently struggle with PTSD symptoms. This is statement is true especially if affected when they are children.

Blue personality type children experiencing PTSD respond very well to parental loving touch and cuddling in order to assuage PTSD symptoms from the event that has transpired.

While orange personality types are not as affected by PTSD, they also do not beneficially  respond to parental touch, emotional support and cuddling in order to assuage stressful events and or compensate for the release of cortisol.

In simple terms, blue personality types have higher ranges of emotional feelings and affect then the majority of global population. One can speculate that this higher range of emotions contributes to increased behavioral responses, ssociated somatic responses as well as vociferous reactions to various scenarios. These scenarios may be PTSD evoking or not.

If you are a parent ..,....think about whether or not knowing if your child has a  higher oxytocin level range  or a lower oxytocin level range determined by a simple saliva test would be important for how you cultivate a relationship with that child.

If you are a parent to more than one child and you notice that your children respond  very differently to anxieties and stressors of life as well as having different responses to your affection and empathy in response to their responses, it most likely has to do with variances and oxytocin levels.

If you notice your child has been affected by a PTSD evoking event, aside from parental love and support, EMDR is a research-based methodology that pulls out and extract the route of the trauma.

The earlier in life this PTSD root is extracted..... this false belief system about self and false associated emotion and false somatic response, the better.

What will happen over the course of a lifetime if this route is not extracted and corrected with a positive cognition installation via EMDR, is that as that child grows over the years he will accumulate and gather false evidence supporting his false hypothesis about self with respect to that erroneous route that was planted due to the PTSD traumatic experience.

Understand PTSD and your child's oxytocin levels and you can dramatically increase their: social success, happiness freedom from SSRIs, work ability, friendships and bettering of life.

You can get this oxytocin genetic marker test via '23 and Me', which will also reveal many other genetic markers that may be of importance to know refarding your child.  The test is approximately $200.

Why wouldn't every parent want to optimize the outcome of their child's life by knowing potential problematic innate variables which can then be compensated for and/or ameliorated by making small environmental adjustments.

You got me? What century do we "livin"?

"Oh he's like that because he's a boy..... it's because she's a girl she's sensitive .....he's a middle child he comes from a divorced family" blah blah blah.

These are all secondary contributing factors two shaping personality. Get the blueprints before talking about the adornments.

Uh oh...... What is called a "secondary gain" in the world of psychology might be preventing you from truly wanting to know your child's oxytocin levels
By not knowing the child oxytocin level, you can keep your gossip and communication and false chit-chats up with the other parents by judging and speculating and assuming the reasons for various children's behaviors (as oxytocin affects much more than PTSD response in children).

Don't let livin 4D get in the way of your social life.


Thursday, August 10, 2017

San Diego Therapy Tool Box 8


Psychology Today Tips about spirituality, relationships, thinking patterns, somatic or body awareness and more. New designs for living in self with respect to others and to the environment.

Thursday, August 10, 2017

San Diego Therapy Tool Box 8

Do you have your life set of tools for:

Living in harmony, peace and happiness?

Moving through life and balancing tasks at a slower manageable pace?

Creating optimal times for yourself rather than getting pulled into other people's schedules and conversations?

Quick ability to let go of anger and frustration?

Finding the routes to get to solution without getting stuck?

Getting your brain and neurological thinking patterns out of habituated routes?

Creating the best dialogues or ways of going about relational dynamics?

Identifying what you are filtering through your built psychological lens from years of ego perspective in comparison to  external truth? (5 prong approach....quite handy). In other words what are you overreacting to and are taking personally which actually you shouldn't be.

Feelings are based on thoughts and inaccurate thoughts and perceptions cause inaccurate feelings and responses. Make the thoughts accurate and believe them and your emotional response will change.

Setting goals and manifesting them despite obstacles?

Talking in a way with someone who seems oppositional to your approach or your direction, joining with him and her admiring his expertise and asking him to come up with the solution rather than remaining in debate?

Washimg clean the emotional psyche of grime from the day? (A practice of breathing that is conscious, not of the autonomic nervous system? NSI (neurosomatic integration) which activates the vagal nerve, balances the antagonistic sympathetic parasympathetic nervous system to decrease anxiety, I'll colonizes the blood with the extra release of carbon dioxide increasing the pH thus decreasing chances of cancer and other illnesses?

Do you know what your biggest core issues are in life that are causing you problems?. Let's get to them and extract them, so there are no longer being 'mine'd for.

Do you know how to use humor to befriend friction cenarios does increasing dopamine and decreasing cortisol?

It is fundamental to include the biological elements into the psychological well-being and approach to life the two complement each other very well.

(619) 750 2218 

Lily Kotila MA MAT PhD(c)

Friday, August 4, 2017

Guage your relationahip attire?

Have you ever had the traditional couple fight regarding temperature and sleeping?

" It's too hot."
"It's too cold."

"We don't need the heater on "
"Yes we do."
" I'm freezing."
"You're exaggerating."

The result:

You wrap yourself in your cocoon of blanketree attire and I'll wrap myself in my cocoon of blanketree attire and let's sleep in the same bed but engulfed in our own pods.

The reality:

Women's circulatory systems are closer to the surfaces of their skins in comparison to men's circulatory systems.

Therefore, women are typically cooler than men because the heat spread through the body via the blood in a female is in closer contact with the outside world's temperature than is a man's.

This bloody gender difference concept does not take into account #s of adipocytes or the amount of fat insulation one has surrounding the self.

I'm sure that in and of itself could turn into another more "heated" debate.  Having just written this blog post, it would probably be more "cool" to keep fighting about the temperatures and keeping yourselves separately cocooned.


Saturday, July 22, 2017

Snicker Snicker: ha ha heheh hypnosis. FUNNY?

Really?  What planet are we on in the "Milky Way"?  ......MARS?   (Where does that expression even come from really?)  Tangent:  The reference to someone being a Neanderthal is actually a compliment as they were super smart.   People should be a little "MORE-on" ........seriously.  Get with the programmed. Oh ....you already are.

How boring is the program.  I think I'll go get a snickers.  I don't care.  Yup. Ya'll are so boring and scatterbrained, I much rather enjoy a snickers than listen to you NUTS.

So what exactly do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your psyche?

snicker snicker sucker sucker snicker funny funny 

What do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your relationship with chocolate?

What do you think these types of words associated with chocolate do to your relationship with you? your body? your mind? your emotional heart?

What do you think this hypnotic connection increases or decreases in terms of behavior and/or associated behavior?  At least they're obvious about it and not sublingual .....I mean not subliminal.  But now that I "neanderthal" it.......to most of you knuckleheads, it probably is subliminal hahahahahah....snickers.

Unlike the Untied States, Britain and Australia do not allow subliminal advertising.

What cray cray in the snickers advertising campaign do you think would design such packaging thinking that it would promote sales?  Hmmmm. Maybe it does or it will?

Or maybe it will increase the purchase of a gift to a love giving a sweet message - "You rowdy B_ _ _ _."  "Here you go peanut."

They have these laughs in Mexico with similar associations.
Que intolerable! Estas muy grunon y dramatica. Ay caramba.  Dios mio.  Vas a comer una chocolate con estrella dinero.

Haha.....look what I just came across......I'm such a neanderthal.  I've got the sagittal crest ;)
You knucklehead Homo sapiens.  You little piggies run all the way home and enjoy your snickers.  Y voy a comer con gusto tambien.  Teach your children well.  wah wah wah wah wah? what? Enjoy.


Know where to take a bite out of line.....I mean life.  Then put on your sneakers and go for a run on the treadmill so you can work your HAMSTER rings.  Turn those wheels .......right?

snickers snickers snickers snickers.

Brought to you by Flyer from Asteroid B324 "The Little Princess"

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Parental co-proxy - Gaslighting Munchausen Syndrome: Get with the program

DSM 6?

You may have heard of the psychological condition known as Munchausen SyndromeIt is a condition where an individual feigns sickness of mental or physical varieties in order to get the attention and sympathy of others.

Munchausen by Proxy is a condition where an individual, usually a caregiver makes up a story that the person being cared for has a psychological or physical health condition in order to get attention and/or sympathy from others.

The person usually being "cared" for is a child, an elder or an individual with a disability.  The commonalities among:  children, elders and individuals with disabilities is that they are often not believed, due to "valued position by society" and/or don't they don't have the language to express the truth of a situation.

Also, Munchausen by Proxy is not a "common go to" explanation or answer regarding what is occurring, as this explanation has to bypass the first observable layer of what is being presented.  One must peel away the layer of fog to see the true clarity.  Some aren't even aware that the fog is fog.

Munchausen by Co-parent Proxy (Munchausen by Co-proxy) is the Narcissistic Gaslighting of one parent's story of the other parent to a child.


"Your mommy is very very sick.  I'm so sorry.  Your daddy is very very sick."
"Your mommy is crazy.  Your daddy has mental health issues" 

"Your mommy lives in sin."      "Your daddy is not going to heaven.  He's cursed."

A child is very imprintable and impressionable and his/her views and ideas of the world and people in it are greatly influenced by parental talk, opinions and behaviors.

Munchousin co-proxy has a big influential power on a child's perception of victimized parent because in many ways the narcissist parent shuts the child's truth down.  The "narcissist co proxy parent"will reference the other parent in negative ways both subtly and overtly.  He will make parallel associations such that the child's perspective over the course of years is influenced.  For example, 

Mother asks: "What color shirts are the good football players wearing?"  
Son responds:  "Black."

Mother asks:  "What color shirts is the bad football team wearing?"
Son responds:  "White."

Mother asks:  "What color shirt is daddy wearing?"
Son responds:  Silence.  

On some level, the child is aware of the negative association inference, but with many of these types of suggestions adding up over the course of years, it affects the child.  It may affect the child's view of the parent and in the long run perhaps the view of the other parent.  

Undoubtedly, there is a pressure from the narcissist parent for the child to agree with her and/or make fun of the other parent, not respect him, speak to him in the same way that the mother references him:
"moron." This reference may come out overtly or covertly.  "Dad you can't every do anything right can you?"

There is not much literature on the effects of vicarious gaslighting on children, pathologized co-parent and/or the relational dynamic.  

When families stay united, the results aren't usually as devastating on a child, parent or relationship between the two as in comparison to when there is a split family.  This variance is due to the amount of time a narcissist parent has in isolation with the child in order to adversely influence and shape the child's opinion of other parent.

When this type of scenario enters a court setting, a parent who is the victim of narcissistic gaslighting with Munchausen by-Proxy is often seen as sick because the court rooms don't know how to see through the fog.  The co-parent enters a similar muted role as the child, an elder or a mentally disabled in terms of his voice being heard.

 Once the narcissist parent has ejected co-parent out of driver's seat and/or car, her control in the driver's seat is even more influential and powerful.  It is very hard for the ejected parent to re-enter the picture as the picture is quite different from the one that has been painted.  Not only does the victimized parent have to not draw false defense lines within the Munchousen co-proxy story, he has to remain in his own story of truth. He has to metaphorically get into the driver seat of another car.

As split families are more common now than ever before, this concept of Munchousin co-proxy is important to keep in mind as it absolutely does not have the child's best interest or co-parent's best interest at heart.

Some people take the view that a narcissist acts out of malicious intent.  

Perhaps there is an explanation of intent due to oblivion resulting from a genetic variable located on Chromosome 3 p 25 resulting in low oxytocin and one's ability to "see and understand life through eyes of other" empathy which is different from mirrored reflect.

**There are no pictures complex enough to be associated with this concept at this point in time.**


Tuesday, May 16, 2017

PTSD and the new "F." 8 new ways to understand trauma transcendence

The split between:

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

From my educational experience and training thus far, I have not yet read other professionals' mentionings of any discrepancies between these two experiences: PTSD and FLYING.

I refer to the 2nd experience as "flying" but clearly, that's not the term I search for in order to see if anyone else has written about this concept. Instead,  I have looked for mention of the concept of flying and I have not come across any remotely related literature.

Flying will be introduced and discussed  with respect to PTSD Transcendence in a brief moment.

A quick snapshot of the current accepted rationales as to why certain individuals get PTSD while others exposed to the same environmental milieu do not.

1. Oxytocin levels
The higher the innate level of oxytocin, the higher the probability of increased emotional response and internal freeze encapsulation resulting in PTSD. Also the higher probability of "fight or flight."

(The 6Fs: 1. Flight, 2. Freeze, 3. F***, 4. Fight, 5. Food, 6.  Flying (different from flight)).

Higher oxyocin levels are 'base'd on Chromosome 3p25 marker rs53576 containing GG and/or AG alleles (in comparison to AA alleles).

2. Relational support
Higher oxytocin level people (approximately 37% of global population) not only experience increased chance of PTSD onset, but they benefit more from assuaging of Trauma/traumas through love, touch, empathy and interactive support from family members, friends or loved ones. If higher oxytocin level people do not receive love and support, healing hugs etc., their likelihood of PTSD onset is increased.

3. Lock and Key
If one has a previous existing life theme in which the current stressful event fits into like a lock in key,  and the combination of current event and past theme is impactful enough to turn the latch, one's psychological  door of trauma is opened resulting in a situationally compounded emotional reaction - PTSD.

Following are aome offered new perspectives regarding why some people may get  PTSD while others do not. 

4. Sympathetic nervous system carrying  capacity levels to trauma.

Through the lens of biology, the difference between those who are able to fly through PTSD onset and those who get trapped in it's net may be related to one's y-axis of intensity level carrying capacity.  For some people, the  sympathetic nervous system activation and associated levels of  released (x) cortisol may be activated at y=4. For others y may =9.. Cortisol traps the trauma experience as a memory with intensity and cause ortisol imprints that can get trigger by similar future themes.

 One's threshold for acceptable internal stress (y) beyond homeostatic resting point may also play a factor in the onset of PTSD as the higher the carrying capacity of the individual's nervous system, the more tolerable the trauma level.

I would imagine this concept of nervous system carrying capacity is not fixed, rather it has a cumulative effect similar to a stretched rubber band. The more the parameters of trauma tolerance with respect to any given  theme are slowly stretched over time, the less snap back PTSD potential.

I would imagine that people have varying overall carrying capacity thresholds of PTSD tolerance (x,y) as well as varying levels of theme tolerance  with respect to nervous system activation. The ladder is more situational than biological in terms of individual's  exposure.

5. Trauma Theme Tolerance
From a conditioned social lens, flying  ability through a trauma experience may have to do with internalized conditioned beliefs and associated emotions from past experiences that counteract the PTSD exposure experience.

For example, if one were at a summer camp at the beach and a life guard saved a child from not drowning in the waves, this experience would feed a flying bank niche associated with water/death/fear.

If that same person as an adult were on a sinking cruise ship, and people around him were terrified of drowning, his life preserver encapsulated memory of the child, being saved by the life guard may provide a PTSD barrier.

This childhood scenario however would probably not serve as emotional protection of that same person if he were were trapped in a burning building as an adult due to  the fact that the  two scemarios most likely don't share theme relations. 

Ultimately, PTSD comes down to fear of death and/or fear of people and their torture from a trapped and pained perspective (either of psyche or of body).

PTSD is the worst for those individuals trapped in a confined space while being or feeling threatened for one's life by another.

6.Flexible Trauma  Contours
When these people are forced to brush up against their worst fear(s)...... And they cannot cognitively rework and redefine the trauma situation internally and/or fully accept and embrace the other side, the trauma exposure is like hitting a bag of ice against a steel wall.

To redefine perspective, shape of reality  and fly in that same metaphor, one's ice in bag would melt in the bag such that when it hits the wall, it shares contours with the wall and flexes rather than fractures.

Perhaps some flyers transcending PTSD  have experienced a deep spiritual connection in which there is a knowing of life and 'death' beyond and expanded from the conventional conditioning associated fears and unknowns.

Perhaps there is a letting go of the ego self and a joining with the kami of the universe. ...an acceptance of being..... whether in Being or out of Being. Perhaps there is a cognitive storyline or awareness that fits not only as an imagined (or real) separate realm, but a storyline that can also be tied into the logic of understanding in this realm.

7. Oxytocin reverse

Even though the oxytocin effects correlating to trauma were referenced above,  perhaps there is also a reverse possibility.

Even though high oxytocin level people experience higher PTSD potential, this facet of the population also has a more complex inner world with schematic imagery and an ability to formulate alternative narratives.

One's ability to cognitively break free of entrapped storylines such as demonstrated in the movie "Life is Beautiful" can exponentially increase his/hey ability to transcend trauma.

If the trapped trauma is transcended and taught intergenerationally, the whole life experience would change.

8. Sleep state Integration

Another possibility regarding why some people develop PTSD while others do not may have to do with how some people process, chunk and associate trauma experiences  in various phases of sleep.

9. Exercise and meditation and NSI
may play roles in abating  PTSD. Also a breath work process I have named Neuro Somatic Integration.

NSI Neuro Somatic Integration

Perhaps the reasons why flyers become flyers and why others get PTSD isn't even this complex. Thoughts?

I have had clients who have been gang raped with no PTSD onset. I have had clients who have been held to gun point with no PTSD onset. I have had military jet pilots with missiles blowing past them in florescent colors with no resulting trauma.

Yet......it is not uncommon for surrounding people who know the individual had been exposed to such a traumatic event to think that the person's anger or sadness or fear in any given scenario is connected  that person's unprocessed trauma.

Of course it is important to keep in mind that PTSD can manifest at any time in one's life regardless of how long ago the initial exposure was to Trauma. It is also important to note that things and/or situations can cause PTSD that one would not typically classify as a traumatizing event. It is quite dependent upon ones internal world, life history and emotional impacts. 

Also, the same things don't scare people. One's fear might be elicited by a natural disaster. Another's fear might be elicited by a psychological scenario. One's fear might be elicited by an imagined concept.

There is no one size fits all PTSD exposure theory, yet often people project their own fears onto others and assume that those individuals will have the same fears as self.

It seems that often, these flyer types of personalities' biggest risk for PTSD onset is related to therapists', friends' and families' insistence that they have PTSD rather than listening to their truth. I'm being slighly sarcastic.

A quick tangent from the last paragraph . . . . the types of personalities drawn to heroin and opiates (even before ever discovering drugs) often shut down and cease attempts at genuine connection and expression of self as they frequently feel  categorized and framed into others' perspective and sense making.

Rather than these personalities realizing it is a limitation of the listener to hear the words and genuine expression .of him / herself... They often think they are not good with expression and communication and therefore stop......but their thought is simply the farthest thing from the truth.

We operate in many ways within this world as if we are all one in the same on the inside. It's simply not the case.

Back to the concept of flying.  . . . Using the above 3 scenarios of: gang rape,  gun point and missile flight,  PTSD  transcendence, as the possible result of one's ability create a new storyline and  experience reality through this unique lens  would undoubtedly be viewed as dissociation by most professionals.

Rather than be curious if there is anything to learn from these "Life (are) Beautiful" scenarios, therapeutic professionals  are often  much more interested in forcing a round peg through a square hole. Why? Because if they get "the plug"  to fit, they have succeeded in their job and they can stroke their own egos for being good therapists. Good luck trying to get a therapist  to admit it. Unlike most other facets of life, you'll actually need the luck beyond the given touche cheeky expression. It's not just therapists who insist on angles of overlaid peception of other.

I invite so many more possibilities of thinking and imagination to explore this flying concept of PTSD transcendence. (Call or whatever you want).  ...."Wilson?" (The soccer ball)

Willing suspension of life disbelief within this realm rather than exclusively in hollywood.

I will offer two more potential explanations pertaining  to the nervous system that I think may be  possibiliTIES as to why some people don't get PTSD in an almost universally guaranteed PTSD evoking scenario.

10. Nervous System rerouting
I believe that just like a train can get re-routed by the shifting of TIES on railroad tracks, so too can the nervous system get re-routed. Just like the circulatory system can grow itself around coronary blockages and arteriosclerosis venules and arterioles, so too can the nevous system create new working pathways.

For example, one's nervous system vibration,  frequency and route of synaptic travel that in the past was associated with anxiety in the stomach may now register in the body as extreme fatigue, or as a leg tingle. This nervous system rerouting process.....grows around the nervous system trauma block and makes new tie-ins to cognitive sense makings and neuronal junctures that are operational ....thus eliminating the trauma responses.

One would be able to detect this somatic re-routing of the body as the conscious mind would recognize the same environmentally triggering scenarios (whether internal thinking or external situations) eliciting different internal cues and sensations.

There are so many other ways of viewing trauma reslience and life in general that can radiate off this nervous system rerouting concept if one is interested in exploring new pathways of understanding.

11. Parasympathetic nervous system cushion
Lastly, in terms of the antagonistic relationship of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, perhaps some bodies remain in the parasympathetic state when exposed to stress, thus resulting in PTSD avoidance....however another set of issues might get created.....those of the psychosomatic variety.....such as oversweating or nausea.