Conversational ASSumptions: Mental Galapagos Islands

 As we all know, people are unique in many ways. 

The unfortunate aspect about much of our human interactions is that we perceive, treat and converse with people as if they internally operate in the same ways in which we internally operate.  We also assume that their observable external behaviors and language are underpinned by the same internal constructs in which we would imagine performing those same external behaviors and language.  

We are often not consciously aware of the assumptions we make. . . projecting our perceived parallel internal states and emotions onto our observations of external other. This “comparing of people’s outsides to our insides” is a fundamental flaw in communication, though it doesn’t have to be with an expanded awareness of it. 

Another flaw in communication leading to decreased connection and increased friction is that we make perceptions and judgments of other based on one or two shared items provided by the communicator.  We use these one or two shared items to paint an entire picture. In our minds, we use a metaphorical "two colors" to paint an entire picture, not realizing there are many other colors on the internal palate of "other."

Imagine a finished metaphorical painting, or mental picture consisting of orange and yellow.  How different would that finished painting  look in comparison to a  (mental) picture with orange, yellow, blue, green and purple.  We often fail to see other's internal colors of the bigger picture's pallette, because we limit our visions and full scope of the true person based on the 2 color assumption  principle. 

 I’ll provide two specific examples of “conversational ASSumptions” which can ultimately lead to ego hurt and further distancing in any relationship if they are not diagnosed and ameliorated in a quick amount of time.  Similar to a car that has a funny sound and or vibration . . .  .if not quickly attended to, the problem can become much worse and in some cases cause a lot of damage such as in the break pad giving way to rotor damage or failure to change the oil leading to engine deterioration etc.

 I was at dinner the other night with a friend.  He made a statement, which led me to believe that an assumption had been made  . . .so I addressed the assumption, he apologized and we were able to move forward. 

The assumption he made was that I dialogued at the same speed and tempo with the daughter whom I raised for 9 years as the speed and tempo in which I dialogued with him.  He speculated that this speed and tempo might have made it difficult for her to “track me.” 

This gentleman hadn’t see the daughter and me ever interact in person.  This fact presents the idea that much of our thoughts and awareness of “other” when outside of our individual fields of shared vision are based on us making inferences and designing internal cognitive schematic concepts based on what we hear the person sharing and based on how we experience the individual.  This human nature is not beneficial and conducive to creating shared relationships of truly knowing each other.

 I can only speak for myself as I only have the familiarity of being inside my own body and mind.  That stated I do have much professional training behind me and I for sure have more than the “Outliar” 10,000 hours of mastery expertise with individual and interpersonal REALationships.  So I will proceed based on my training of people.  Caveat:  Only a certain percentage of individuals and couples of the population come into therapy, so I only have a sliver of the population.  I do also have friends, family and acquaintances from whom to base some opinions.  OK moving forward. . . .

I want think that many people have core consistent values and beliefs but act very different around different people.  I’ve heard an expression before that some people are “chameleons” with an insinuation that this is a bad thing.

 I don’t believe it to be this simple myself.  Nor do I view varying aspects of chameleon personality to be “multiple personalities” or tricksters in any way. 

I view some people to be more complex in nature with respect to their inner worlds.  I also view being different around different people as a sign of emotional evolution in that certain individuals are like Darwin’s finches. 

They can adapt aspects of their personalities to best fit the environments and/or personalities with whom they are interacting at any given time.  I view this dynamism as an asset. Being able to adjust for different psyches as long as the core values and beliefs remain constant and true to the self helps an individual to relate and connect to many different personality types.  Even though I stated “as long as the core values and beliefs remain constant,” this concept may be a positive thing to change over time and let go of some rigidity.  After-all, the trees that don’t blow in the wind have a tendency to snap, crack and fall over. 

The study of personalities is so complex, yet we treat it as a simple analysis that we can form pictures on based on a few questions in a very short period of time.  It is my humble opinion that much of the social community is flawed, not to mention the therapeutic and psychiatric field as well.  The more assumptions we can decrease, the less flawed our communication will be.

Perhaps there are some people that remain very consistent in terms of their presentation around all people.  Perhaps the personalities they connect with are also very similar in nature.  Maybe they talk about the gym, what’s for dinner, and/or 2 aspects about their daily work.  Maybe non-Darwinian personalities pick their friends and interactions based on the personality foliage in which they are familiar with on their internal mental island?   Nothing wrong with this perse, but when an individual is exposed to “nuts and or barks” of other islands, their beaks simply cannot fulfill their hunger if their beaks are made for fruits.  Therefore, when interacting with other personalities different from self, it is important to not judge the nuts and barks minds by using a fruit shaped beak.  If this beak-food mind analogy is used, the personality combinations will “die.”

Just as the above-mentioned friend made an assumption of me, I too made an assumption of him.  He had been in a long-term sexless marriage.  Based on knowing this fact and based on my perception of his importance to dialogue about establishing a physical relationship and what those parameters would include . . . using my therapeutic training skills, it was easy for me to hypothesize that this facet of his personality, “the need to establish guidelines for operation in terms of relationship definition” hindered his physical connections with people.

I surmised that his need to draw physical lines may have taken the “soma” and spontaneity out of a possible future physical experience (before ever getting there) by bringing people into the cognitive realm of dialogue.  Another hypothesis for his lack of sexual relationship was that his pre-dialoguing may have felt like too much pressure on the receiver to “enforce a sexual relationship,” like making a list of items to get at the store….a drag and ….an anticipated chore. 

Where I went wrong in my hypothesis was that like him, I too made an assumption that he talked the same way with others as he did with me.  Using the Galapagos Islands scenario, my friend’s personality may be very different on different personality islands than his personality when in interaction with me.  Each of us tried to pathologize and blame (with care) the “other” for the problems in life.  This blame factor is quite prevalent in all dynamics and I’m not sure why?  Not only do we limit our hypotheses to how we perceive other interacting with us, but we fail to take into account secondary people’s personalities and even personalities with whom they are influenced by and interact with.  Our understanding of other is way to A-> B.  We are not linear people.

As mentioned above, I am not inside the bodies and minds of others.  Maybe most human beings are not as complex as I think?  Maybe most human beings do not adjust their personality thermostats for external temperature changes? 

Maybe most people are simpletons and they act and talk and think the exact same way as everyone they are around?  Maybe their personalities wear winter parkas even in the summer and spring.  Maybe they have no flex and cannot survive when in interaction with multiple Darwinian personalities so they stay with the people whom they are familiar with on their island eating fruits and not exposing themselves to nuts and bark.

Just food for thought.

Relationship Neuro-Network Connections

For all aspects in our lives, we have cranial (+ and -) content categories (CCCs) of our brains in which we place external and internal material.  This method of internal emotional attachment and neurological association helps us to make sense of our worlds and categorize them.

External and internal environmental material has no intrinsic (+, -) factors in and of themselves.  The attachment of a positive or negative meaning is subjective and has to do with our perceptions of the content, event, tone of voice, intention etc.  Even if someone does something that may seem overtly (-), it doesn't mean that that "something" is (-).  However, due to our egos, we often interpret things that affect and elicit our emotions of sadness and/or anger as being (-) from other.

What happens in relationships over the months and years is that the schism between (+) and (-) perception of "other" becomes wider and wider.  Dependent upon which part of the brain one feeds . . . the (+) or the (-) determines which neuro-network will grow and expand over the years.  As the scale is tipped in one direction or the other (+) or (-) in terms of perspective,  it becomes easier and easier to add and build more neutral content in the section/category that weighs more.

If you are in a relationship (with self or other) and you notice more and more friction between the two of you (self/self; self/other) and/or internal frustration levels increase or patience wanes, it is important to pause your internal neuro-network habits.  In this space of pause, take note of your neurological habits and tendencies.  In this "pause space," you have the power to re-route your cranial maps.

The next time you notice your affect energy being negative or pessimistic toward your partner, whether or not you have already physically engaged back in the cycle, (in other words if your negative energy is internal or external), ask yourself the question:  "Do I want this relationship to stay together or be positive?" 

• If your answer is "no," keep doing whatever you are already doing.  The schism and negative thinking processes will continue to widen and the relational dynamic will become exacerbated.

• If your answer is "yes," that you want the relationship to be long term and you want to solidify the relational interchanges in a happy, dopamine platform . . .in this "pause space," begin to think about the last week, month or year in order to access some internal memories of  positive interchanges, observed behaviors and or thoughts you have had about your partner. 

Even if you can only think of one positive thing in the last year, bring this positive thing to the forefront of your brain.  Ruminate on it.  Slow down internal mental time and space out the seconds such that your body and mind can enjoy the memorable experience. 

Everyone must start the shift of scale from (-) to (+) somewhere if so desired.  Some relationships will be further down the negative scale in terms of tipped neurological platform and cranial negative roots than others.  It doesn't matter how many rungs you have to climb up in order to shift the relational balance from (-) to (+), everyone has to start somewhere.  It takes one step at a time and undoubtedly, some will have longer to climb.

The key with cranial content categories CCCs is to not let the negative side of the brain take over the positive because once it does, the negative side will create shadows on the positive side. Neutral elements (let alone negative perceived elements) and interactions exchanged with partner will so quickly be added to the negative lens category that relational demise is inevitable.  Demise is always reversible if desired.  This stated, the sooner you switch the relational sway of tipping from (+) to (-), the faster your turnaround time will be in terms of creating relational happiness.

Gottman states that it takes five positives in relational interaction to outweigh the effects of one negative interaction.  I would add to that idea that dependent upon the emotional and/or thought weight of the negative, it may take even more positives to outweigh the negative.  It is also important for the partner to understand "other's" 5 love languages (introduced by Chapman) such that s/he can appropriately attempt to "repay the debt" in ways that are received, appreciated and valued by partner rather than trying to "repay the debt" in ways that are important to self.  This concept is often played out and repaying of the dept is attempted according to the giver's values, which contributes to more resentment and either acting out or shut down of the giver which is due to the attempted act not being acknowledged by the receiver.  Putting the external attempts at amelioration aside. . . .

The concept of Cranial Content Categories (CCC) suggests that it is important to not wait for your partner to do or say a (+) thing in order to compensate for a (-) perceived thing because the waiting and/or expectation not only adds negative energy in the direction of partner, but it affects your energetic output as well (both internally and externally).  Furthermore, s/he may be waiting for you do say a (+) thing due to her perception of any given adverse interchange or silence,  leaving you both in a relational deadlock.  Relational deadlocks don't remain neutral.  By default, they end up moving into the (-) cranial categories.

Edging Life, part of www.sandiegotherapy.org suggests to internally readjust thinking patterns and partner contextual categories by doing things like cultivating and ruminating on positive memories, such that you shift your internal energy, resulting in external changes including but not limited to:  expressions, tones, waiting periods of exasperation, helpfulness, patience etc.

The path to personal and relational happiness is via conscious internal neuro-network shifting from (-) to (+) as it takes away all "neediness" from "other."  You have the power to control your thinking. You have the power to shift your energy.  You have the power to pave your path.

Just because you don't express your internal thoughts in words, doesn't mean they are not felt and heard.  

Primary Personality Components: Beyond Gender, Race, Age and family positioning

We have developed social constructs of understanding personalities in which we can make sense of behaviors and interpersonal relationships.  These social constructs include:  gender, race, age, birth order and cultural background.  These categories help people to gain bearings and foundational underpinnings of people such that they can relate and position self and other accordingly.

The above-mentioned constructs are secondary personality shaping factors that influence people’s psyches and who they become in the world.  These variables are helpful facets for understanding people in order to help functioning with respect to self and other .

Due to the fact that these constructs are secondary variables affecting our personalities, it is important for us to examine primary factors creating the foundational blueprints to our personalities.

If we gain understanding of our primary human personality differences before the socially conditioned layers are overlaid onto psyche, we will be better able to navigate our relationships and create beneficial interpersonal dynamics.

By examining the primary personality differences, we remove the socially conditioned variables and much of the subjectivity and conditioning that is quite arbitrary in nature when trying to understand people, their cognitions, language choices and behaviors.

The primary personality ingredient is Oxytocin.  As human beings, we have 3 varying Oxytocin level ranges.  These ranges are dependent upon our DNA letter combinations located on Chromosome 3p25.  We have either:  AA, GG or AG.  LIVIN4d has categorized the GG form of Oxytocin and the AG form of Oxytocin as one color:  Blue, due to the fact that the G “trumps” the A in terms of affect expression factors.  The AA has been categorized as Orange.

Based on whether or not an individual has the AA form of expression of Oxytocin or the AG, GG form of Oxytocin expression determines a number of intrinsic different personality attributes.  Blue Personality Types and Orange Personality Types have different ways of parenting, different ways of communicating, different ways of receiving information, different memory styles, different lengths of conversation preferences, different ways of making sense of “chunking information.”  These examples are just a few of the varying personality styles and ways of being in the world that are determined by the DNA coding for Oxytocin.

The reason why it is important to understand an individual’s primary personality type has to do with understanding one’s assets and liabilities.  If personality type is known from an early age, children can be placed in schools and teachers can help Blue to cultivate Orange characteristics in order to maximize their full personality character.  Teachers can help Orange to cultivate Blue Personality Type characteristics in order to enhance their full personality character. The more range one has on the personality spectrum, the more social skills and interpersonal awareness one has.

If not identified in childhood, knowing the personality type of an individual as an adult is also helpful in order to better socially navigate around with respect to others.  It is also helpful to know in terms of job placement and social connections.

When a person has a thorough understanding of his/her genetic personality blueprint, it is helpful for him in terms of understanding his relational “eases” and  “diseases.” 

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Mental Illness and Pyschiatric Genes

Psychiatric Genes:

In a lot of ways, the psychiatric field is like playing a game of Russian Roulette in that the testing questionnaires administered to clients/patients in order to determine pathology are inconclusive and arbitrary in nature.  Practitioners often operate within the box in which they were trained for determining the psychiatric illness of a client.   

Anyone who has ever been a psychiatric diagnostic recipient and who has frequented more than one psychiatrist has often discovered that each MD not only labels a different diagnosis but prescribes a different medication as well.  It doesn’t matter whether or not the previous medication administered by the previous MD was effective or not, the new MD will frequently prescribe what s/he knows and is familiar with.  Whether or not this choice in protocol is due to training, comfort levels and/or is kickback incentives from the drug companies, I don't know? (Of course, I'm generalizing here).

In order to determine a psychiatric illness, it is suggested that family, friends, and teachers (if applicable) be part of the comprehensive diagnostic criteria, but due to time constraints and other variables (including possible arrogance of practitioner?), these people are typically not involved in diagnostics.  Perhaps the psychiatric MD is lackadaisical, has a busy schedule and/or is simply not that individually attentive, or caring?  Perhaps there is a lack of current knowledge with respect to available psychiatric genetic testing availability?  It is possible that their trainings were decades ago and their professional development does not require them to keep up with current data beyond the 36 necessary CEUs?  Regardless of individual shortcomings, there is clearly a schism between the psychiatric and the biological communities.

It is not uncommon for an MD to prescribe one medication for a period of time, and then for the client to return to that same MD and for that MD to change the treatment protocol resulting in the administering of another medication. The psychiatric process in and of itself is built in such a way that it can evoke psychiatric illness.

In order to determine mental illness, psychiatrists will often want to administer various multiple choice questionnaires in order to help determine DSM-V diagnoses.  These may cost anywhere from $1000-$5000.   Many of these questionnaires are not substantiated by research and if they are, the research is often skewed.  Literature attests to these facts.  These tests come with disclosures that results are not necessarily indicative of diagnosing the disorder being investigated and that results should be interpreted with caution. MDs are aware of this but patients are typically not.

To eliminate a fraction of subjectivity, LIVIN4d suggests supplementing the psychiatric diagnostic community with examinations of the genetic psychiatric panel.  Many laboratories offer SNPs/markers on a PsychArray genetic panel. The target phenotypic conditions for this chip include: Schizophrenia, Bipolar disorder, Autism-Spectrum disorders, ADHD, Major depressive disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, anorexia nervosa, and Tourette’s syndrome.  
  
There are more forms of personality genetic tests as well, including non-pathological personality testing such as assays to determine Oxytocin levels based on intrinsic population variances of the neurotransmitter which is genetically located on Chromosome 3p25.  FOX P2 is another personality genetic marker that is non-pathological in nature. It determines language structure and the schematic cognitive pictures associated with spoken and written words.  At San Diego Therapy, examining these genetic personality genes is possible.

A personality genetic test isn’t to say that presence of these personality disorder markers substantiate an individual having a particular disorder as I believe there is just as much ambiguity (maybe slightly less) built into these tests as there is to the arbitrary questioning of a psychiatrist.  In my opinion the ambiguity of genetic personality marker results has to do with secondary and tertiary genes contributing to assuaging deleterious genes and/or usurping their functions.  There are times when the presence of harmful genes  (indicated by testing) do not get expressed due to these 2' and 3' usurping genetic variables coupled with environmental overriding variables.  There is so much we know about genetics, yet there is so much we do not know at the same time.

There are times when genetics create a black and white, easy to interpret scenario such as in Sickle Cell Anemia, which is caused by simple frame shift mutation.  With this mutation, an individual will have sickled blood cells resulting in an inadequate amount of O2 being transported.  Without the mutation, s/he does not have sickled cells.  When an individual is a carrier to the disease, for simplicity purposes, it is like s/he has half the mutation.   Therefore, s/he has some of the effects of decreased O2 transport.  However, the benefit of being a carrier is that the individual has a natural immunity to malaria which is why the disorder remains in the population.  In any case, this genetic mutation is a simple form of a DNA alternation which has observable and direct manifestations of both the (+ and -).

However, when it comes to examining psychiatric disorders, the observable characteristics of the mind are much more complex.  They are typically not black and white scenarios as mentioned above.  

Sometimes a person may exhibit certain psychological “malaria,” and sometimes s/he may not.  There is so much room for personality variances that unless the personality "mutation" is extreme, the ambiguity and subjective nature of personality disorders is quite arbitrary.  Unlike sickle cell anemia, which is black and white in terms of diagnostics, personality disorders are quite fickle in terms of their labeling by practitioners.  Yet, they are treated as if they are set in stone and based on hard science. 

If a person is struggling and seeks out psychiatric help, the MD will diagnose the person in a 20 minute conversation based on the specific questions asked by the doctor and answered by the client.  Do you really think a 20 minute question and answer session is worthy of an entire psychiatric label? I think the process in and of itself is quite "psychologically bipolar" as there are so many inferences made, not to mention “strategic” questions.

I am not suggesting that the psychiatric genetic testing panel is the one and only conclusive method for determining psychiatric illnesses due to the silent genes and other genes that may inhibit expression of “psychiatric illness genes” that we do not yet know about?  What I am suggesting is that it may be beneficial to use some of these psychiatric genetic testing panels in order to help with diagnostics of a client, to help decrease the subjectivity of a 20 minute psychiatrist evaluation, especially in the scenario that the client is exhibiting maladaptive symptomology which might benefit from the use of psychiatric medication.

If you and or your child is suffering from any form of "mental illness" and you are thinking about administering drugs, do yourselves the peace of mind and the favor of looking into a psychiatric drug marker panel.  Afterall, MDs are people too.  They are not better or worse than you.  They do not know more or less than you.  Yes, there training is in a certain facet of life, but who do you think cares the most about you and/or your son or daughter?  YOU DO.  The movie Lorenzo’s Oil speaks to the benefit of parents being proactive in their children’s lives and not just taking and following an MDs orders.

It is important to think for yourselves, do your own research, compile your own data and seek out alternative remedies and or work with an MD who is supportive of such things like compounding pharmacies.  There are many advantageous drugs administered in Europe that have been around for centuries as they are not stuck in clinical trials and the long 10+ year process of FDA approval.

When dealing with psychiatric and or mental issues, it is quite important for you to recognize truth and whether or not the symptoms fit into the psychiatric box.  Don’t let someone label your or your child’s character in a 20 minute evaluation.

Language Flight? or Language Boat?

Would s/he rather fly? Take a boat? Take a bus? Drive? Walk? Swim? How would "other" want to get to the destination?

What if "other" doesn't want to go to the destination?  If you were to attempt influencing your idea in hopes of your partner "jumping on board," what vessel would s/he have the greatest likelihood of "buying into" your proposed destination?

LIVIN4d creates an opportunity for people to see each other with a new perspective based on understanding of Orange and Blue personality types.

This new perspective allows for more interpersonal connection because people will view each other as having genetic personality uniquenesses.

Once these innate cognitive structural differences are understood,  people can tailor their communication framework and patterns without altering the content such that the presentation vessel optimizes the receipt's integration of the content.

When "selling ideas" or influencing our partners,  friends, family members or colleagues, in order to increase likelihood of content/idea acquiescence, the mode of delivery is of primary importance. 

If one knows that the recipient is an Orange Personality type, the presentation of an idea, (whether  it be little or grand, short in presentation or long), can be constructed  in an orange personality framework. By building an Orange vessel or framework in which to fill with the "selling point ideas," the Orange receiver is much more likely to "get on board."

As a result, the Orange person will be much more likely to integrate and agree with the ideas suggested by the presenter because the presenter is communicating on the Orange stage of mindframe understanding.

The same vessel presentation concepts are true if one knows s/he is presenting ideas to Blue Personality Type. These two presentation methods of selling the same content if presented to Orange would look and sound very different than if presented to Blue.

 We typically don't  think of our partners, friendships and families as relationships in which we "sell" our ideas. We typically view this mentality more in conjunction with business ideas.  However, assuming business is going well, if you think about it . . .in what environment do you really want to be heard and understood for your opinions and ideas?

We really want to have a heard voice among our partners, families and friends. Within these relationships,  we often crave  connection and understanding. Unlike business deals, because the heart is involved within our personal relationships, our emotional attachment to sharing and receiving of ideas increases and our emotional reactivity increases when we don't  feel an agreed connect.

Unlike business decisions, often, in our personal relationships, whether or not someone supports an idea and/or decision of "other" is not based on financial monetary numbers easily calculated for by a loss or gain equation.

In our personal relationships, we do  not have an easy "go to equation" in which to guide our decision making processes.

By not having a clear logical vessel, framework or relational equation for sharing ideas and making decisions in our personal lives, coupled with the fact that our emotional hearts are involved,  we often increase frictional discord, arguing and fighting. Frequently, this friction results in relational  distancing, shut down, judging of other and tight gripping of our own individual beliefs due to perceived "loss of self" threat. Distancing, shut down and judging also contributes to a frictional foundation with respect  to the next relational decision making event.

When two individuals tightly hold on to their personal ego beliefs due to the fact that they don't feel heard by other,  the dynamic ends in a deadlock with no emotional strings sewing the 2 people closer together.

Livin4d creates 2 platforms of understanding human psyches. By identifying Orange and Blue personality types, differences  in individual egos can be honored and respected by self and other.

By having awareness and compassion for genetic personality variances with respect to how we operate and view the world, we not only feel understood by other for who we are, but we are much more likely to come into agreement as a team.  The fight in vessel is eliminated and the process of getting to destination is a smooth ride. The likelihood of moving in unison to destination is increased.

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The Current Approach to Oxytocin

It is a fact that different populations have tendencies for different Oxytocin Level Ranges based on their genetic blueprints.  For example, Asians are more likely to have an AA or Orange Personality Type than Europeans.  Europeans are more likely to have a GG, AG or Blue Personality Type.  Neither personality type is better than the other.  They are however different in terms of: language formation, cognitive preference and focus of life pleasures.  Affect ranges and emotional scales are unique to Genetic Personality Types as well.

This stated, we do not currently view each other as having unique personality types and therefore we treat each other as if we are all basically one in the same.  We are not. If we can understand and view people through a Blue and/or Orange lens of perspective, we can optimize our relationships and create the dynamics we desire in whatever the setting of life.

North America has a tendency to pathologize individuals with lower Oxytocin levels.  They provide nasal sprays in order to increase Oxytocin levels and/or name these people with lower levels to be "Narcissists," or individuals lacking empathy.  

These statements are erroneous and equivalent to personality racism of the pre-civil rights era.  Our personality types and Oxytocin levels are determined by genetics, just as are the colors of our skins.  Just because an individual is Black, doesn't mean we go around calling him/her inferior.  We did reference and treat the African American race as inferior when we were ignorant and operating from a superior righteous frame of mind.

We are currently playing out a parallel superiority complex with respect to how we view people with lower Oxytocin level ranges by calling them narcissists and by assuming they have deleterious aspects of character and assigning them psychological diagnoses and/or suggesting drugs.   People who have internal lower levels of Oxytocin have lower levels of the hormone and neurotransmitter due to their genetics, for which, just as skin color, they have no control over changing.  We are  born with our primary personalities based on DNA existing on Chromosome 3p25.  Therefore, the current mainstream psychology for treating low levels of Oxytocin is basically attempting to Eugenocide personalities. 

San Diego Therapy suggests that rather than pathologize people with lower Oxytocin levels and stigmatize them - It is important to take a new angled approach; that of understanding differences and examining how each personality type has many assets which help keep the two ends of the personality spectrum in check with one another.  Blue and Orange Personality types balance each other out and create an optimally functioning relationship.  We just have to understand each other from a new therapeutic and psychological orientated framework.

To use a simple euphemism:  The artist needs some grounding in concrete foundational logic just as the logic needs some imaginative whimsical gusts of wind.

Livin4d provides the ONLY personality test rooted in genetics thus eliminating subjectivity out of diagnostics and out of personality testing as well as providing an interactional guide to help enhance acknowledgement and collaboration of  personality assets, thus creating harmonious balanced relationships.


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